So I just recently watched Fireproof. I must say that Kirk Cameron has gotten better over the years. I remember the old Left Behind movies and how terrible of an actor he was. I was slightly surprised, too bad the rest of the cast on Fireproof sucked. The movie as a whole wasn’t bad though. Story wise it earned my points, after a lot of frustration that is.
Frustration. That’s what came out of me as I was watching the movie. Not because I was feeling horrible for this married couple but because I was hoping to get some answers for my self. Don’t you just hate it when someone says:” This or that is the reason why marriages don’t work out”, but then you look at yours and the reason is completely different. That’s what I felt like when I was watching this movie. My relationship issues seem to be so drastically different then the regular sob stories I hear day in and day out, like:” He emotionally abused me, or I had to do everything around here, or we had money issues, or he cheated on me.” So cliche and yet I’m still left without an answer.
But then, there was the Love Dare. Kirk Cameron’s character took a 40 day Love Dare to save his marriage and each day he has to do one special thing for his wife. I though this was a great concept but I was frustrated yet again because I wished I could get a hold of this book so I can try it myself. Funny how fate had me in the Bookstore and right in front of me it was. The Love Dare book just as seen in the motion picture Fireproof. I picked it up and I’m on day 2 now. There are already some very interesting things in there. Who knows, maybe it will be my favorite movie of all time if it gets me my wife back. If not, it’s 2 1/2 stars until then.
Rev. Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D. Said:
on February 17, 2009 at 8:28 pm
Interesting note you make about different problems than others. My experience is that there are many reasons why marriages get into trouble, and how they are stuck. Yet there seems to be a very common theme on how a marriage comes back together.
I’m reminded of Leo Tolstoy’s quote “Happy families are all alike; every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way.”
Perhaps you have discovered this for yourself. The Love Dare may give you the direction back, in spite of the difference in where you started.
Best wishes in your efforts to heal your marriage!
Rev. Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D.
author of Save Your Christian Marriage
mladenkekic Said:
on February 18, 2009 at 10:33 pm
You bring up a very good point. I love Leo Tolstoy and that quote is legendary. It fits so well. Thank you for reminding me of the positive.
jbunch Said:
on February 20, 2009 at 12:27 pm
I am excited that you picked up the Love Dare book. That is a great book from what I hear, especially from the movie’s portrayal of it.
I agree about the movie acting being sub-par at best. But the story is a great reminder for all that God is wanting to do in this life – mainly that of restoration.
It is my prayer that this will influence your marriage as well as other relationships in your life. Vickie and I decided that we are going to get the Love Dare book and do it the first 40 days after our honeymoon.
Exciting stuff though. Mladen, ask your wife is she would want to do go through the book with you. Not sure if she would, but maybe it could happen.